Important Disclaimer

Since I currently have several employers/supervisors/churches/etc., please know that none of the words on my blog represent them or their beliefs. This blog is my own creation.

It also does not represent my children's perspective, nor my mother's; they think I am funny, but misguided.
(Quick update: only my mother thinks I'm funny now.)

Wednesday, October 30, 2013

Slow Cooker Church

I've been working this morning on my overdue newsletter submissions for three churches. One church I'm a week late. One church it was due now. The third church will publish a November/December newsletter sometime later this month. And don't get me started on how desperately I need to do a youth newsletter that will go out separately. Like desperately.

I've been putting this off until I could "find time" to focus for several hours, because putting together the pieces of what I do is somewhat daunting. My calendar is a rat's nest of disparate events, pivoting on a dime between two, three, or four different programs in any given day. How does one put that into a newsletter in any coherent manner? Last year I decided to draw a picture so I could explain it to people:

One person ran screaming from the room, and I never heard from him again.

But, oh, we are having so much fun!

The picture has changed a little bit since the spring, with some relationships strengthening and others

Wednesday, October 23, 2013

Laugh Lines II*

possibilities exist
even in the gray strands
filling in the amber honey
that my father
used to call
dishwater blonde

your eyes are like pools

Il faut souffrir pour ĂȘtre belle

I think he said that about my braces

I have forty-one years
are stretch marks beauty?

a stretch mark
crawled out of his own bed
like a question mark
"Hey mom, wanna snuggle?
Just for a little bit?"

sweet as honey
and just as annoyed
to find himself
in a poem

And I think
I am not dead yet.

*first Laugh Lines post here

Monday, October 14, 2013


From Happy Nataraj's fundly blog. Go check it out!

Do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your minds, so that you may discern what is the will of God—what is good and acceptable and perfect.
 ~Romans 12

This is a post for my friend Happy Nataraj (pictured above), about artists and healers and others who don't fit in the box. Go support his campaign to create beauty here: A Happy Rebirth.

Support his campaign with money. Support it with the time it takes to watch the videos and see what he is about. Support it by adding your name to his page. I know a lot of us are living on the edge and

Friday, October 11, 2013

Queer Like Rain in the Desert

It's National Coming Out Day again, like it is every year on October 11, a day set aside for LGBTQ folks to "come out of the closet" and proudly shout our sexual orientation from the rooftops. "Here ye, here ye, I'm gay Gay GAY!" I made my own Coming Out post 3 years ago, which you can find here: InsideOuted. I had a lot of support, a few very challenging responses, and a lot of folks saying, "Wait, WHAT? How did this happen? You're switching teams?" So I wrote a little more in this post: Some Partial Thoughts. That was the beginning of this blog

It's an absurd ritual in a lot of ways. I mean, should I stand up in church and declare, "I LOVE WOMEN!!" Half the congregation is going to nod and say,

Saturday, October 5, 2013

Restoring the Broken Table

This weekend I've been at Church of All Nations for a conference co-hosted with a Mennonite Worker Community called "Christian Hospitality: Restoring the Broken Table". We've had a series of great speakers and workshops, and I've been tweeting quite a bit. Here are links to the notes I took in plenaries and workshops. The full conference schedule can be found at

A quick note that I attended the Sacred Sites tour, led by Pastor Jim Bear Jacobs, but I did not tweet it. I am still letting that afternoon and space settle in my thoughts.

Plenary: Mark Van Steenwyk, "The Revolutionary Table" 
              Book: The Unkingdom of God: 
                         Embracing the Subversive Power of Repentance
              Twitter: @markvans

              Book: Radical Gratitude
              Twitter: @romerohouseto

Workshop: Jim Bear Jacobs, "A Native Perspective on Hospitality"
              Twitter: @bearjacobs
              Website: Healing Minnesota Stories

Workshop: Richard Beck, "The Slavery of Death"

Plenary: Richard Beck, "The Will to Embrace: 
                                      Hospitality as Emotional Capacity"

Not tweeting the last plenary, a panel of our speakers. I do appreciate the acknowledgment/confession that with Mary Jo's departure this morning, this panel is all men.